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RIP: My Father-in-Law

Discussion in 'In Memoriam' started by pete, Jun 22, 2011.

  1. pete

    pete Brassica Oleracea Staff Member Administrator

    ... died at age 66 about a week ago after complications from a double lung transplant 3 years ago.

    He played Eb alto sax and my wife will be bringing home his horn. It will either become an object d'art or will be repaired and lent out to kids in her school -- it's a fairly old Bundy.

    There were easily 100 or so people at the funeral and the party (yes, party) that was thrown afterwards. Hey, I don't think I even know 100 people.

    He'll be missed!
  2. tictactux

    tictactux Distinguished Member Distinguished Member

    My condolences, Pete.

  3. pete

    pete Brassica Oleracea Staff Member Administrator

    Thanks. It's unfortunate that I didn't know him better. One of the problems of living 1600 miles away.
  4. Gandalfe

    Gandalfe Admin and all around good guy. Staff Member Administrator

    Man time is flying by; so many people to meet, family to get to know, and things to try. I like the idea of his instrument finding a new owner. What a gift for the lucky recipient. Our lead alto in the MJB plays a Bundy because two years out of college and even though he works at Microsoft, that's all he can afford. He sounds awesome on it by the way.
  5. sincere condolences from me as well. Living too far from your inlaws is a big barrier.
  6. pete

    pete Brassica Oleracea Staff Member Administrator

    My father-in-law and his wife lived in MI, along with one of my wife's grandparents. They all died within the past three years. My wife's brother (guitar & vocals) and his wife live in MI. My mother-in-law and my surviving grandparents-in-law live out here in AZ. My sister (flautist), 4 of her kids and her husband live near SOTSDO in TX. My mom, her husband and my oldest niece (22) live in Buffalo, NY. My father died a few months ago; he lived in TN.

    I have about 22 aunts and uncles (accounting for approximately the same amount of cousins, if not slightly more) and they're spread all over the place.

    In other words, no matter where we live, we'd leave someone out. That's both good and bad, depending on how you look at it!
  7. Ed

    Ed Founder Staff Member Administrator

    I like it when funerals have a celebration element to them. While the leaving of a loved one is a sad event, I think it's better to remember the good times and the moments of laughter and joy.
  8. Helen

    Helen Content Expert Saxophones Staff Member Administrator

    My condolences Pete, to your wife, you, and the kids. This has definitely not been an easy time for your family. You are in my thoughts. Best wishes...helen
  9. Groovekiller

    Groovekiller Distinguished Member Distinguished Member

    Those who have passed are the people upon whose shoulders we build our lives and careers. Funerals are for the survivors.
  10. Gandalfe

    Gandalfe Admin and all around good guy. Staff Member Administrator

    Reminds me of the quote used at my father-in-law's funeral. "Not always right, but never in doubt." His son told it and it got quite a chuckle. That's nice because my FIL had a great sense of humor.
  11. I've always found it a little bit on the morbid side that I've gone through far more funerals than I've attended wedding (singular). Humor and funeral never seem to reconcile in Taiwanese circles on the matter.

    Cheers to life.
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